You’re not alone! In a 2011 Berrett-Koehler survey of 150 leaders, a stunning 68% of managers confessed they don’t like being managers. So what can you do about it?
The best leaders can see it as the signal to make a change. An effective manager or leader doesn’t make excuses and stay stuck. They figure out how to extricate themselves and reconnect with their sense of passion and meaning – so that they can find managing exciting again.
- Recognize Myths At Work
First, is it possible you’re managing by hit or myth? (myth meaning a long-standing belief that could be bunk).
The book ‘Myths of Management: What People Get Wrong About Being the Boss’ (by Stefan Stern and Gary Cooper CBE (Kogan Page 2018) presents 44 of what the authors say are faulty beliefs:
E.g., that leadership is more important than management/that there is one right way to lead or manage/that you must keep up with all the new management ideas and give them a try. Stern and Cooper gently kill off these myths, while indicating how to find the balance. That’s my goal as a career consultant and coach, too – to find the balance that works for you.
- Be Authentic – and Flexible.
I’ve been reading another book called ‘Managing For People Who Hate Managing: Be A Success By Being Yourself’ by Devora Zack (Berrett-Koehler Publishers Inc. 2012).
According to Zack, success as a manager comes through finding the managing that fits who you are. This is not to say you do whatever you want. As she says, “Be who you are – just flex your style to manage others.” Whether the approach you take is tough or mild, it’s about a range of techniques – being versatile in how you lead, communicate and motivate. The ideal is “maximizing your rapport with others while maintaining your core of integrity.”
- Be Accountable
It could be that your dislike of being a manager is because you are not taking charge of and ‘owning’ what you do. As I say in my ebook ‘The Top 5 Advantages of Hiring A Business Coach Today’ (at epsteinsuccesscoach.ca ) accountability means owning responsibility for all your decisions and actions regardless if the outcome is good or bad. Accountable leaders do not point fingers to try and shift responsibility to others when things go wrong. They focus on fixing the problem and making things right.
- The Value of Learning and A New Perspective
Could you benefit from research, a refresher course, new kinds of relationships with colleagues? In my work with executives and entrepreneurs, I have often found that those who remain open to learning and flexibility are more likely to ‘close’ on success. Approach struggles and setbacks as great opportunities to refine skills, grow professionally, and meet and conquer challenges
While you may not enjoy what you’re doing, doing it well can provide a lot of satisfaction.
(Of course, your dislike of being a manager at this company may have to do with issues that are too major to overcome. This month I’ll be writing more about how to find a new position, professionally.)
- Improve Your Managerial Skills With A Business Consultant + Coach
You may be expert in terms of education and experience at your specific field, but may not be proficient with the management skills needed to run an effective team. A business consultant/coach can help you develop those critical interpersonal, strategic, and management skills that are essential to be effective at the executive level – or any level.
I can help you pinpoint the cause of why you are overwhelmed and becoming unproductive, and help put you on the path to make changes. Please download my free ebook, and let’s arrange a 30-minute initial consultant. It’s easy to manage, can help you significantly improve your managing skills – and it’s free!